I think we’ve established already that break-ups are very hard, but what about divorce? Well, divorce can be devastating, especially if you’re not the one that wanted it in the first place. Things can get even uglier if there are kids involved.
There are many things that could lead to a divorce, from the most commonly cited “irreconcilable differences” invoked by most celebrities, to infidelity or simply the loss of love and passion. Sometimes, it doesn’t have to be an affair or another unfortunate event to lead to a divorce, not feeling the spark that was once there can be enough to cause a split.
According to relationships experts, the reason you no longer wish to be married traces back to your single days.
According to Elizabeth Cohen, PhD, a clinical psychologist in New York, “Sometimes people want a divorce for the same reason they might have had doubts of going into the relationship,”
“It’s usually the things that bothered you before, they just compounded over so long that you know it’s not going to change.”
Of course, it’s obvious that you really wanted to be together at some point, otherwise, you wouldn’t have gotten married. But things can change, and some people find it really hard to change in the ways you want them to. For a marriage to work, you both need to make the effort. However, if being married feels more like a burden than a blessing, getting a divorce might be the best solution for you.
According to Erin Levine, family law attorney and founder of Hello Divorce, a legal assistance platform, “It’s likely the decision comes after years and years of contemplating and trying to make the marriage work.”
While the reasons behind a divorce can vary from one relationship to another, these are the 12 most common issues that make people switch from ‘forever’ to ‘never again’, according to relationship experts and psychologists.
For more articles on this topic, make sure to also check 12 Important Questions to Ask Yourself Before Considering a Divorce.