Do you remember those butterflies that you used to feel whenever you saw, touched, or talked to your partner? They are usually present at the beginning of a relationship when you are crazy and enthusiastic about your loved one. Unfortunately, these butterflies can easily disappear if you don’t take care of them, leaving you fumbling to create the spark again and to rekindle your intimacy level later on.
This is why the honeymoon phase is full of butterflies and love – it’s usually the time when both partners are actively making an effort to keep the spark going and to make the other feel loved, pleased, and joyful.
But as the relationship gets older, people tend to forget about the efforts they were making at the beginning. This leads to getting comfortable and losing the connection. Of course, this doesn’t happen overnight, but getting to the point where the relationship feels burned out is surely not a phase of your couple’s life.
Things can easily become monotonous, exactly like boring routines, where the excitement is almost absent. Everything feels predictable, everyone is in their comfort zone. It is true that this can make people feel safe and secure in their relationship, but if we think about it, where is the fun if there is no spontaneity and excitement?
If this is your life now, no need to worry because there is still a way to get back on track. As long as both of you are willing to make an effort to make each other feel butterflies again, you have all the chances in the world to make it. I am not gonna lie to you and say that this will be easy because it won’t. You will have to address the problems and work through all the issues you may have been ignoring.
This situation calls for communication, attention, empathy, reconnection, intimacy, and affection. Are you willing to make the effort? If you have no idea where to start, we have talked with several relationship experts on how to grow closer to your partner again.
Here are some tips on how to rekindle your relationship: