1. They’re too involved in your life.
If you’re living in close proximity with your in-laws, they probably expect to be included in all your plans and family outings. But at the same time, if they’re living in another state, chances are they’ll monopolize vacation time, so you really can’t win.
As one mom from Tennessee shared on Parenting.com, her in-laws usually visit them once a year during summer, so they expect to spend all their vacations with them. She also added that even though it’s bothering her to spend all vacations with his parents instead of getting away as a family, he doesn’t mind it.
But you can’t really have a talk with your in-laws about this issue as long as your partner is not on board.
According to Susan Newman, Ph.D., author of The Book of NO: 250 Ways to Say It—and Mean It—and Stop People-Pleasing Forever, having a good relationship with your in-laws is not only good for your children, but for you as well, in order to strengthen your family bond.