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7 Things People Stupidly Do To Save A Relationship

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It is believed that love is blind or that when it comes to love and wars, anyone can do anything that comes to mind. Is it true though, because everyone seems to buy this?! However, some couples say that they love each other unconditionally and that they won’t break up. Some relationships work just well, while others aren’t that great. But if you lie to yourself that everything is good, then what’s the point?

According to experts, it’s completely normal and they are encouraging people to fight for their partners, in order to make their relationship work and to find happiness. However, there are cases when certain couples take this advice to the next level and end up doing ridiculous things to save their relationships. Let’s see some of these “methods”:

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1. They go out and buy crazy expensive gifts

“Thank you for the yacht, honey! Yes, of course, I’ll grow old with you!”

You’ve surely seen in many movies scenes where men, usually, give jewelry, cars, designer clothes, and accessories to women, just to have a relationship with them.

Who doesn’t like giving and receiving gifts? It’s fun and lovely but who would like to be loved by someone just for money? Although it’s possible, there are A LOT of chances that it won’t be something long-term. We say this behavior is toxic. What do you think?

2. They accept weird advice

According to experts, men tend to behave more like lone-wolves when they are experiencing problems in relationships. They may seek advice from friends or from people who have already gone through a situation like they are in now, but most of the time, they keep it simple.

Women, on the other hand, are the ones who overcomplicate things. Sometimes, they behave as if they are scared about their relationship, or they are scared that their partners are going to leave them. This is the point in the relationship when everything turns upside down. Instead of talking to their spouses from the first time they feel that something is off, they prefer to overthink the situation.

After they get tired of all the scenarios in their heads, they ask their friends for advice. Sometimes it’s good and helpful, but at others, it’s just wrong and useless if you think about it.

3. Unusual bedroom compromises

Do you know the scene from the first season of “F.R.I.E.N.D.S”, where Ross and Carol couldn’t find a way to make their marriage work like it used to? Scared that he is going to lose her, Ross suggested they should spike up their bedroom life. They invited one of Carol’s friends to share a night of intimacy and after that, the wife realized that she is a lesbian.

It might be something that only happens in the movies, but what if people are so scared, that they are willing to welcome someone else into their intimate relationship?

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4. Forced trips

This is an interesting one. Imagine fighting with your partner and booking a trip, like a cruise, for example, hoping that you will solve all of your issues. Oh, boy, the fireworks will start! For some people, getting away for a couple of days might be the best option, but for others, it can be even MORE harmful.

That is because if you already have major problems that you haven’t talked about, a trip might seem like a chore, not like something fun. We’ve seen a lot of “counseling trips”, where spouses are “forced” to talk and to spend time together. But why change the decor, when you can simply change the behavior?

5. They are willing to change their appearance

“You’re the one that I love, You’re the one that I love, Oh, oh, oh, yeah”, Olivia Newton-John was singing as Sandy Olsson in the movie “Grease”. She had changed her appearance, thinking that the boy she had a crush on will be more attracted to her.

This is a method that some people are using, but is it worth it? Dying your hair, changing your wardrobe, actually turning into someone else just to make a relationship work… it is a clear warning sign!

6. They are lying to themselves

Even though they are not happy anymore, some people are scared of being single or have the illusion that their spouses are their ride or die. They are forcing themselves to be or to look happy, so their partner won’t see the truth.

7. They are willing to make compromises

Compromises are natural when it comes to relationships. You start to think about your partner when you have an important decision to make. Everything is good until you put your happiness on hold for the sake of your relationship. If it’s not mutual commitment and you don’t care about each feelings, then what’s the point?

TAKEAWAY

Just like with everything in life, we have to look at the good side. Although the situations above are funny at first, it’s always better to seek help from a professional, if you want to save your relationship. Don’t try to be Elle Woods from “Legally Blonde”, because if something is forced, it won’t work out!

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