As much as love is usually one of the best feelings in the world, sometimes it can go all over the place, making people act weird. Even though you might have felt really connected at the start of the relationship, small fights, missed appointments, changes in behavior, and disappointments can lead to bigger issues, bitterness, and exasperations that can turn us off in the end.
You might have noticed that sometimes, a fight with your partner can make you more motivated to work on the problems you have and make things right. Other times, you might experience that fighting every now and then is actually making you feel more disconnected from your partner.
Indifference is a thing that happens in a lot of relationships, but for the majority of people, it’s only a temporary feeling. It can occur during stressful events when one of the partners feels like they deal with everything in their life.
For others, this indifference keeps growing every single day, making the relationship fall apart more and more.
Have you noticed that you are no longer that interested in your partner? Be realistic and honest about it. If you need more help to discover it, here are 10 signs you’re indifferent to your spouse.
There are many relationship and dating experts who say that if you don’t trust your significant other, the whole connection is actually in vain. Some of the things that can make you suspicious about your partner are emotional damage and infidelity.
These things can make you turn away from your spouse and act like there’s a huge distance between you two. Long story short, when you don’t trust your partner, you might act like they’re no longer important to you because deep down, you don’t care anymore.
If you and your spouse fight all the time, without actually making any effort to try and understand each other, you should be careful. This can lead to serious problems in your relationships, especially indifference.
No one has enough time or energy to repeat the same things over and over again. At some point, you get exhausted and you stop making an effort. When the constant fighting gets to you, you might notice that you’re actually becoming more and more disengaged.
There are moments when our relationships go through a rough period of time. You focus all your attention and energy on your own responsibilities and problems, or you go through things that change you in a way that pulls you away from your significant other.
These things happen because all relationships have their own ups and downs. You have to understand that if you don’t constantly work on your relationship, this slow grow-apart thing can lead to a big sense of indifference over time.
There are many things that can become contagious in a long-term relationship, such as being focused on work, having a cleaning obsession, eating habits, or even indifference.
When one of the partners turns off, it doesn’t take a lot of time for the other person to notice the changes in their behavior. Rather than having an honest conversation about it, the other person usually chooses to mimic the disconnected attitude.
As you can imagine, the whole thing starts to transform into a snowball that keeps rolling and rolling, completely ruining the relationship.
Displeasure and bitterness are one of the biggest factors when it comes to indifference. When you fail to admit that you feel hurt and disappointed, it adds up.
Those strong feelings stew beneath the surface until you can no longer keep them in and they turn into a huge storm of anger. This will make both of you want to keep each other at a distance and you might get more and more indifferent each day.
People lie when they want to hide things from other people. If you’re constantly lying to your partner, it means that you no longer value their presence in your life. Lying can be seen as a conscious decision to hurt your significant other’s feelings, even though they might not be aware of it.
If you find yourself staying busy at work or getting involved in several activities without your partner, just so you can avoid the awkwardness or the silence at home it’s a clear indicator that you’re indifferent towards your spouse.
One of the most common red flags of indifference is emotional numbness. You don’t care about your partner’s actions, whether they’re good or bad. You don’t feel happy or sad.
You don’t even care if they did something that usually annoys you. As a matter of fact, you don’t feel anything. You’re not interested in the relationship, even if it keeps going or stops. You’re simply numb.
When you’re indifferent toward your partner, you don’t care about intimacy anymore. There’s no more spark between you two and you don’t have a problem if you don’t have any fun time in the bedroom anymore.
That is because there is no desire that keeps you interested in each other. When things get cold and plain, you have to be completely honest with your partner and tell them what’s going on with you.
People who are involved in a serious relationship make plans together and treat them like they’re appointments. That’s because they want to spend time with each other and they make it a priority.
If you forget about the plans you made with your partner or if you cancel them to do something else, it’s a warning sign that your indifference towards them grows stronger.
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I’ve been with my spouse for 32 yrs we were engaged for 13 yrs and been married 20 I lost communication with him yrs ago he always compared me to his ex wife!! She put a hurting on him and walked out on him and 2 children for him to raise a lone!! There was no comparison I took care of my child and helped him with his but he could never let go of her completely!! I still hung in there hoping for a change and the love I feel I deserved and wanted so badly He hurt me terribly and to this day I feel I not good enough!!! We are still married I feel we have become a habit that neither one of us can break!!! We haven’t been intimate in 6 yrs we don’t sleep together and don’t do a lot of community As we have aged I feel he’s a shamed of me!! We don’t go out in public together much!!! We don’t ask and I remain quiet!!! I’m not perfect But I know I’ve been a good wife to him!!! I feel like at one time he was seeing his ex wife I never really tried to find out for sure!! I loved him so deeply As of now we just live in the same house He does whatever he decides with out me and I work and take care of home!!! I don’t understand myself for putting my heart out there and trying and praying for his love and never getting it!! He has never loved me as I loved him!!! It’s hurtful I have become numb and I really don’t care what he does it’s the same thing every day!!! But I pray that someday he is man enough to say I’m sorry for hurting you!!! Guess I’ll see (HUH)