1.Acknowledge the feeling
The first and most important thing you can do when you feel ‘the whoosh’ is to acknowledge that feeling. You need to be ok with the fact that it will happen once in a while, whether you like it or not.
You can’t control how often it happens, but you can control how you react to it and how much it influences your life. And you can’t do that unless you acknowledge the feeling in the first place.
2.Try to calm down
After acknowledging the feeling, you need to take a minute or two to calm your emotions. According to Bartz, you could say something like: “I’m going to say I need to grab more hot water for my tea so that I have a few minutes to calm down. It seems like [they] are in a bad mood today; maybe this isn’t about me.”
Before rushing to give a response, you need to make sure you’re emotionally stable and able to talk without lashing out at your partner.
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After a while of just sticking her comments as deep down inside you as you can. Uncontrolled anger feeling will erupt supported by words that may or may not be true. You are probably thinking to yourself why are he sticking feeling deep down inside you. Because I learn very early in our relationship that trying to talk about why is she saying things to hurt me just makes things worse.