…How often do you give people compliments?
We all want to be complimented and only hear good things about ourselves, but sometimes, although people are nice and really genuine about what they want to tell us, their intentions are totally different than what they actually express.
The truth is that we live in a world where everything we say can easily be misunderstood, and we have to make extra efforts to only say things that sound good and won’t upset anybody.
We know it’s easier said than done, but we’ve got you!
We wanted to know more about the compliments that are actually pretty insulting, so we did our research, and now we want to share everything we know with you. With that being said, here are 6 compliments you didn’t know were actually offensive:
I’d be happy to hear this and take it as a compliment. For the person that is giving the compliment I can see that they are trying to share in my happiness. Especially if a wife says it. Don’t you want your wife to to be able to say anything she has thoughts or feelings about. When women talk about how they feel I have noticed there is no hidden agenda and they don’t b.s.
My wife of 58 years doesn’t try to make me guess what she’s thinking. She immediately tells me. No dancing around the issue. When she tells me something I believe her. I may not agree with what she is saying but I look into her eyes when she is telling me what she needs to at the moment. Especially when she is telling how I hurt her in some way. I never defend myself by telling her she is full of baloney or whatever. I take it like a man and tell her I will think about what she has told me and get back to her on it. Then I will think about it for an hour or two then get back to her. Nothing wrong with saying after thinking about what you told me earlier I realize how much I caused you pain. I will be more attentive in the future. Tell her you love her more than life itself. Don’t bring it up again. That is her pain not yours. Most important is to learn how to listen and just shut the hell up.
engage brain, before opening mouth!