1. You’re such a strong person
When someone is going through a tough and hard time, the majority of people want to express their support and assurance in their ability to get past that period.
Some of them really appreciate the support and they see it as a motivation to get over the difficult time, while others see it as something bad and insulting.
That’s because they perceive the whole thing as something that just calls attention to the fact that their life is not exactly the best it can be at the moment.
Some relationship experts even say that there are times when people don’t want to be strong, or don’t have any idea on how to handle the challenges.
As you can imagine, this type of comment only makes them feel even more insecure about the fact that they’re not doing what they’re “supposed” to be doing.
…Do you agree with this one? Share your thoughts and opinions with us!
2. Hey, you’re on time
Some people are always on time, some aren’t. That’s a fact.
However, when you want to give your chronically late friends a compliment on being at a certain location on time, they are more likely to see it as an insult.
That’s because all you do is actually point out that they’re not usually punctual, and they can easily see this as condescending.
…Do you have friends that are always late, no matter what?
3. I’m proud of you for getting a raise
We’ve never thought that complimenting someone for getting a raise could actually be perceived as something offensive, but a few relationship experts say something else.
However, there’s a spin to this situation, and we have to say that something like this is more likely to happen to people who are part of a long and serious relationship.
When someone tells their significant other that they’re proud of them for getting a raise, instead of seeing it as something good and positive, they actually feel like they’re only worth as much as their paycheck is.
It might be difficult to believe, but in their minds, they will mainly think of the fact that they didn’t receive as much money before, which can lead to feelings such as embarrassment and even guilt.
…Would you be happy or angry to hear something like this?
I’d be happy to hear this and take it as a compliment. For the person that is giving the compliment I can see that they are trying to share in my happiness. Especially if a wife says it. Don’t you want your wife to to be able to say anything she has thoughts or feelings about. When women talk about how they feel I have noticed there is no hidden agenda and they don’t b.s.
My wife of 58 years doesn’t try to make me guess what she’s thinking. She immediately tells me. No dancing around the issue. When she tells me something I believe her. I may not agree with what she is saying but I look into her eyes when she is telling me what she needs to at the moment. Especially when she is telling how I hurt her in some way. I never defend myself by telling her she is full of baloney or whatever. I take it like a man and tell her I will think about what she has told me and get back to her on it. Then I will think about it for an hour or two then get back to her. Nothing wrong with saying after thinking about what you told me earlier I realize how much I caused you pain. I will be more attentive in the future. Tell her you love her more than life itself. Don’t bring it up again. That is her pain not yours. Most important is to learn how to listen and just shut the hell up.
engage brain, before opening mouth!