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8 Biggest Turn-Offs for Women Over 50s

We all know that we can't stay the same forever. Every stage in our lives has something specific, something that is going to change. Think about the way you were…

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We all know that we can’t stay the same forever. Every stage in our lives has something specific, something that is going to change.

Think about the way you were acting around someone you liked when you were young vs how you behave now around someone you have a crush on.

We can say that we all have distinct turn-ons and turn-offs and we have to be aware of the fact that these can change over time.

With that being said, ladies, hear me out: even though we all know that being older is usually associated with being more mature and wiser, the same thing goes for possible future partners.

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This means that what was interesting for you when you were 30 might not be the same at 50 years old.

Because we don’t want to neglect anyone, I have to address something to our masculine audience: if you are curious to see what the biggest turn-offs for women over 50s are, keep reading!

40 Comments

    1. I read all 10, and for me, I have experienced all of them, you have hit the bulls eye,, I am in a very loving, happy relationship, men take notes, I am sure you will be happy

    2. Good afternoon I’m in my 50 I am in relationship almost four years but he still telling me he doesn’t want to commit he don’t want to label us. But I pour out my feeling for him we are right for each other when is in life that I can tell him to grew up and smell the roses. We both have been in long term marriage from different people Divorced almost 6 years I think it’s time to move on with each other and put the past behind us but he still see his ex on Christmas but he won’t go with me to any event

  1. I like to feel my opinion is important and I enjoy a good debate. Not an argument or being told to be reasonable. Nothing is more infuriating than to be told to listen to my logic that my opinion doesn’t have validity. It my opinion for goodness sakes

    1. True there is a difference between a debate and argument. But when one constantly argues. The debate goes out the window. There is no chance for discussion. I am a firm believer that two should be able to discuss/debate issues. But I also believe that when the debate is final that what they agree on should be just that. Not go back to what caused the debate or differences.

  2. I think women over 50 definitely do not want to play games and do not have time for BS. We do not want to fix someone. At this age we don’t like to go out as much as we used to so relaxing at home should be comfortable with our partner. But not opposed to trying things the other one likes.By all means don’t fall into the friend zone, we should make each other feel desired a lot.

    1. Hi Kathy,
      What do you do with a 58 years old wife who doesn’t come to bed with you at midnight however stay up alone until 3-4 o’clock just to surf the social media sites?
      What’s wrong with my wife?

  3. I’m 9 Days Shy Of Turning 55…Never Married With No Children. That Says A Lot But Even more, At This Age, Chances Are (For Me, Specifically) This List Is Just An Iota Of What Turns Off Women In Their 50’s.

  4. My biggest turnoff is a man with nose and ear hair . Being groomed is very very important. Clean nails, well dressed even if casual.
    Another big turn-off is a date who is cheap. if they are cheap with money they will be cheap with compliments and affection.

  5. my biggest turn off as a man is just not having a female around and in my life..they all are Karens and I am much happier with no females in my life,……………..who needs an extra parent after your 50 anyway/////

  6. women over 50 wants a man who will make her life simpler not harder..if he is going to start a hobby fixing something ..finish it for God’s sake and quit hoarding!!!

  7. Listen and respond.
    If you want to stay with anyone in any relationship . Listen and respond .
    If you have zero interest. Listen and respond . It is easy and so benificial.

    1. Great advice! So very true, too!
      Much like my son-in-law’s…Just smile and nod your head! Lol!

  8. I agree with the 8 biggest turn offs of women over age 50. All being said, men and women no matter what age need to have common interest and they need to be honest with themselves (meaning don not change yourself for someone else to like you). Accept people as they are, do not try to change people or even try to change yourself. Relationships need work there few perfect things in life.

    1. I find it interesting that the comments are all by men. I am a 62 year old female. Active and alive. I want to feel that the effort I put in is appreciated. I love to cook and make things look nice but when it goes unnoticed I feel unvalued. I still like sex, but a slower more intimate kind. Why are so many men all or none? The gifts I appreciate most are the ones that make my life easier. The kind giving side by side help.

    2. I agree with you Keith. I’m 71-years old today and feel more mature with my feelings and goals with other people. Live and let live enjoyably.

  9. One of the most important aspects of a good relationship later in life is what my late wife told me: “One reason I love being with you is that you’ve always let me be myself.”

  10. I’m 65 and cannot play games. I need someone to talk to in a kind and honest way. I’m happy with my own company, so won’t bother to date someone for the sake of dating. I have friends. I also don’t have a need for sex anyone. Was sexually abused in the past. Have low hormones from hysterectomy 15 years ago. I’m still attracted to men, but after all I’ve been through wouldn’t sacrifice my free time unless he was really nice.

  11. I agree with most of these points. Let’s add on another. NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR YOUR CURRENT ILLNESSES and or HOW SICK YOU ARE!!!! And…… stop trying to be sicker than EVERYONE ELSE!!!! Your current Dr’s visit is not a wanted conversation topic!!!! If, anything it make you want to YELL…… NEXT or keep it moving. I’ve worked very long and hard to get where I am or what I wanted….so I DO NOT WANT TO HEAR WHY YOU DIDN’T. At our ages 60’s, you shouldn’t be just starting out, you should be nearly finished

    1. We are at the age where it is about ME. Most of us have spent our lives catering to husbands and children which is what most of us wanted to do in our younger years. Now, it is time to think of ME. I am tired of men wanting to be first all the time. I will not be some man’s nurse and/or purse now. I want a COMPANION who will make decisions with me. You are definitely not someone I want. Sounds like you want it to be YOU YOU YOU. Good luck.

  12. Absolutely, just listen, don’t always jump in with advise or tell me what I should do just because I’m sharing a struggle with you. That goes for everyone, not just a significant other.

  13. Well I believe in a relationship with someone have to make sacrifices I do understand the situation for some of you but that’s the reason why we’re single because we’re has a man feel the same way about you women that’s why communication is the key of the relationship that makes the couple more interesting about each other I also have to say that you women like to be involved with a lot of people on the social media looking for Validation from other people if you’re not sure what do you want don’t waist someone time I read a lots of post from women who are single and they are saying almost the same thing.. Hey be Loyal and Stop the Lien we had enough of that Game.

  14. Exactly, no time or interest in trying to teach someone to be thoughtful, loving and kind at this stage and wonderful when have someone to laugh with to actually see you and to be able to talk through the hard things and tie them all in a loving bow

  15. All very true. I am 53, and my gf is 14 years old than me. The same would turn offs for men in their 50s,as well.

  16. This has been a number 1 turn off for me since my thirties. If you can’t have quality conversations I’m irritated, bored and turned off. We don’t have to agree about everything or have the same perspectives but we must be able to have quality, adult conversations.

  17. If people would be honest from the moment you met, it would save a lot of surprises down the road. If a man won’t be opening the car door down the road of the relationship, I don’t think that’s something he should do at the beginning and women shouldn’t expect him to. There’s nothing wrong with it but if a man is opening the door to impress a lady, that’s not being honest. The most important thing from the time you met is to be yourself. You will either accept each other or not.

  18. Sounds like some of you guys responding here don’t have a clue.. and you don’t even know who you are!
    How’ve you been doin’ lately ?
    Divorced yet?..again?

  19. I’m sorry to say that most of the men I have met just wanted you to fit into their lives when their buddies weren’t available. They put no energy into dates, just dinner and a movie. Date after date. Boring!!

  20. The more work you put into something the better the outcome! Remember to always think of the other person before doing anything, and saying something! You have to think and how it would make you feel. I believe at any age respect is vital key in all relationships! Communication is so important to me at 53 being a guy even lol I know ladies would say I don’t believe it, but that’s ok. Building a strong foundation on trust and commitment to each other can have such an impact on your relationship for the long haul! Make the person you’re with a priority and them do the same back to you, and watch the relationship grow into something that will last a lifetime!

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