Having sex regularly helps keep your sex drive up by increasing the production of testosterone, a hormone that is primarily responsible for libido in both men and women. Read on and find the 31 natural ways to have more fun in bed tonight.
Quit smoking already
If you’re a smoker, visit your doctor and ask him to prescribe you a nicotine patch. Why? Because it has been medically proven that smoking will block the blood vessels in your genitals in the same way that it clogs the arteries in your heart.
Consider your meds
Write down a list of all the medicine you are taking, and sort out the party poopers. More than 200 drugs can cause erection problems and decreased sex drive, including drugs used to treat high blood pressure, heart disease, depression, and stomach problems. Ask your pharmacist or doctor if any of the medications on your list may be responsible for it.
Plan a getaway
Spend your night planning a steamy holiday. Also if you don’t go out, spending time together talking about where you want to go, searching pictures online, and imagining yourself in a tropical paradise would be enough of a libido booster to send you to bed — early. Moreover, it’s a topic lot more stimulating to talk about than why your teenager’s geometry is failing.
Practice Kegel exercises
You know what Kegels are— they’re the squeezing exercises that your doctor has told you to do after pregnancy, or because you’re having a bit of a problem with leaking urine. What your doctor probably didn’t tell you is that they’re great for strengthening the pubococcygeus muscle, which is essential for orgasm. To do Kegels, pay attention to the muscle you are using to stop the urinary flow, then practice the contraction of that muscle, and slowly release it.
Take this supplement
Men: Consider taking ginkgo biloba supplements. The herb promotes better blood flow, more blood flow to the brain, and… other organs. It doesn’t take a lot of imagination to figure out how that might help you. Follow the instructions on the bottle, but first consult with your doctor.
Cook up a pasta dinner
Make pesto and eat it with pasta tonight. Pesto contains pine nuts, a great source of arginine, a precursor to nitric oxide, a major ingredient in drugs such as Viagra. Arginine helps the blood vessels open so that blood flow improves.
Act like teenagers
Go to the movies with your partner, sit in the back row, and make out the way you used to when you were a teenager. You ‘re going to combine the forbidden with the frustrating— a sure bet to get your juices flowing.
Touch your partner
Each time you pass your partner, reach out and touch him or her, or give them a kiss. Don’t let those moments go beyond the kiss or hug. Simply increasing the amount of physical contact you have with your partner will help with desire.
Fill up on these foods
Sprinkle 1 tablespoon of wheat germ with each cup of yogurt and each bowl of cereal you eat. Wheat germ is rich in zinc, which is essential for the production of this important hormone, testosterone. You can also get zinc in beef, eggs, and seafood — especially oysters.
Pretend to be a new couple
When you’re at a party or out in public with your partner, take a moment to stare at him/her across the room as if you were still seducing each other. Sex falls out of a relationship when you take each other’s existence for granted. So don’t do it.
Host a steamy movie night
Cue up an erotic video and watch it with your partner. Use the time to talk about what you like and don’t like during sex (and before and after).
Think ‘Fifty Shades’
Read your partner’s a sexy “bodice ripper” out loud. Play-act the parts of the stunning heroine and her handsome yet dangerous lover.
Keep your eyes open
Open your eyes when you’re kissing them and when you’re intimate. Looking into your partner’s eyes at times like this sends an extraordinary signal of trust and honesty.
Say what’s on your mind
Say exactly what’s on your mind — sexually. If you watch your husband pull out the tree stump in the backyard, and you get some weakness in your legs, watching the sweat roll off his back, tell him. If the sight of your wife comforting your young son after his first-ever girlfriend dumped him makes you happy all over again that you’ve married her, tell her. Trying to express how everyday things make you feel deepens your intimacy when you say it out loud.
Pretend you’ve just met
Remember that weak in your knees, shivers-up-your-back feeling that you used to get when you first met? You can have it again. Ask your wife on a date. Dress up for the date. Purchase some new underwear and surprise him.
Create your own intimate rituals
No, we’re not thinking about sex. But what about waking him up every morning with a steaming cup of coffee instead of an alarm clock? What about having a hot bath prepared for her in the evening? How about a romantic dinner every Tuesday, when most couples are out in front of the TV?
Or rubbing her feet while watching Netflix with a large bowl of popcorn? Consistency is the key. These are not things that you do just once, but again and again until they become like a special language between you two.
Get a massage
Or a pedicure, or a facial, or anything that makes you feel better about yourself. If you take care of your own body, you are much more likely to appreciate it. Exercise is another healthy way to take care of yourself. A side effect for both men and women: better blood flow to crucial organs.
Find new things to talk about
Turn the timer on for 15 minutes and talk to him (or her) about anything other than children, financial troubles, or work frustrations. Tell him about the dream you were having last night. The cute teenager you saw in the dining room that reminded you of yourself when you were in high school. The great presentation that you made today and how it made you feel. When the timer goes off, it’s his turn.
Take a solo trip
Go away for a few days— by yourself. When you’re gone, make a list of all the things that make you happy and you love about your partner. Close your eyes and picture yourself making love with your partner. Call him and have an intimate phone conversation. By the time you get home, you’re going to be so greedy for each other that the front hall will look like a king-size mattress.
Do it in a different room
Send the children away to their grandparents and enjoy some time together. Make love in another part of the house, rather than the bedroom. It can be as steamy as in your bathtub, or as romantic as it is on a blanket in front of your fireplace.
Write down your worries
Once you go to bed, take a few minutes and write down a list of things to do and a list of your concerns. It gets rid of the fears that often interfere with your ability to relax and get stimulated.
Remove the pressure to get right to it
Spend an hour touching every part of your partner’s body— but make it more interesting, you can’t use your hands. Instead, use other parts of your body (including your imagination). Conversely, just caress each other with your hands touching every part of the body, except the genital organs.
It will alleviate any pressure you might feel to “get right” after a long day at work, so it’s a perfect way, at least for a woman, to relax so detach from the daily grind and step away from her other (oh-so-non-sexual) positions.
Eat a dozen oysters
After all, it is said that every morning Casanova had 50 oysters off the breast of a young woman in the bathtub— so they have to be good for something. Actually, as you read a few tips earlier, oysters are lined with zinc, which is essential to the development of testosterone, the sex hormone in both men and women.
Stop at one (or two) drinks at the most
A small amount of alcohol can set your mood; more can drown the flame of desire, or reduce your ability to see your desire through.
Buy some lingerie
Go and buy at least one sexy lingerie piece. Okay, this is for the ladies. Yet the sensation of soft silk against your skin will help to awaken the nerve endings of sensuality.
Re-create your favorite sexy scene in a movie
You know the ones— the Flashdance lobster scene. The ice scene in 9 1/2 Weeks. Mena Suvari’s cheerleading routine in American Beauty, Clark Gable bringing Vivien Leigh up the Gone With the Wind stairs, the Ghost pottery scene, the Madison County Bridges portion when Meryl Streep and Clint Eastwood dance in her kitchen.
Create a romance playlist for him (or her)
Have it playing when your partner comes home after a long day of work. Light up a few scented candles while you’re at it.
Say, ‘I love you’
Tell your partner two things that you love about him every day. Love, affection, and mutual respect are the foundation for intense sex life.
‘Sext’ your partner
Ask him or her what you’d like to do when he or she gets home.
Do something physical together, like skiing, a long country walk, a beach walk, or canoeing. Such activities allow you to see each other in a different light, creating a sense of physical vitality that easily translates into intimacy.