1. Whatever you do, you seem to upset your partner
When someone really likes you, they will try to understand all the annoying little quirks you might have. They tend to concentrate more on everything they like about you, not about the things that are usually irritating.
But things change when your partner doesn’t find you attractive anymore. That’s because it’s in people’s nature to observe and comment on a lot of subjects when they find something they disagree with.
If your partner doesn’t like you as much as they used to, they will start to be annoyed by many things you do.
Yes, she spent several months mad at everything and said she didn’t like me anymore. I let time pass and now she is acting differently. Maybe not great at communication, but more loving and some communicating.
Hi Merle, does this come from one of three things, lack of true communication when you say hurtful things .Does it have to do with lack of sleep and nutritional deficiency. Or lack of emotional connection?
I should’ve followed my instincts after our first date. That being said, I can’t imagine life without my sons. I’ve observed that if a woman doesn’t respect you, your fate is essentially sealed, she’ll never really give herself to you. But she will stay married (provided she perceives she’s safer and more secure with you than without you).
This is a primary driver for a man to have a concubine. And yes, there are women who are willing to accept – even embrace – that “status.” If a man has the courage and integrity to first do what they can to obtain their wives respect AND – regardless of the outcome – continue to love & provide the security their wife needs, ironically, he, his wife, concubine and children can – so to speak – make lemonade from lemons.
Very difficult to successfully negotiate and achieve, without a doubt (especially in today’s environment)!
I can already hear the skepticism & antipathy, but 4 decades of marriage, successful sons, daughters-in-law, and grandchildren are a priori evidence.
Since my first husband had many extramarital encounters ( he was in a rock band), and after my second husband of 21 yeats died, I’ve dated and i always see everything you describe. It’s related to the fear from the first one, but I always see it, and am ready to bail. My self-doubt and fear is what makes them pull away. I think you have all of them right, though.
You should follow this with a “Re-Kindling the Flame” piece with stuff like, (1) Start a hoppy that takes two to do, (2) tell her/him what happened at work today at least three times a week, (3) make meals together, cooking and cleaning up, (4) get a puppy if you don’t have children. (6) listen to what he/she says as you have not been doing that if you are having trouble. and on demonstrating that you want to make it work…
As far as I’m concerned, I CAN CARE LESS if I’m not liked or attractive, I like myself which is important, I’m happy the way I am and always have been; nothing in me has changed only time and getting older, I’m NOT going to change to please anyone, she married me the way I was and I married her the way she was and didn’t asked for her to change her ways. Love is accepting each other the way we are without asking each other to change. Our nuptial vows were “Til Death Do Us Apart.” Either she goes or I go, and the front door it’s always open she’s free to walk out the door anytime she wishes; I’M NOT GOING TO LEAVE MY HOUSE and become homeless, if she’s the unhappy one all I can say it’s bye bye and feel sorry for the next guy.