There isn’t a magic recipe on how to make someone love you infinitely, just like there isn’t a fantastic trick to help you love someone forever. Sometimes things work and sometimes they don’t. I feel like in a relationship it’s normal to change, but it has to be a change that both partners are willing to commit.
When you get married, you hear a quote saying ”Till death do us part”. This doesn’t guarantee you a healthy and loving relationship. In order to do that, you have to pay attention to your partner’s needs and really communicate. If a couple tries and tries, but nothing works, maybe a divorce will do wonders for you.
Maybe you don’t know what your partner wants, but there are some clues that you can analyze and find out. Usually, before a divorce, people implied in a relationship tend to have some changes in their behavior. Just keep reading this article and find out about the signs that indicate a marriage break up.
1. No communication
What a pity that you can’t read someone’s mind. It would’ve make things so much easier for the couple who don’t talk that much.
The lack of communication can be seen as a lack of interest and feelings. When you don’t speak to somebody, you give the impression that you don’t care. And if you don’t, why did you get married in the first place?
It doesn’t matter if you don’t share that much, but you can tell your partner what’s been bothering you. Also, if your spouse seems to ignore you, just be honest and say something. Try and bring up a conversation and fix the problems. If it doesn’t work… I guess you know where that goes.
2. Lying to your partner
If you don’t have an honest communication, I don’t think there’s a point in the relationship. Lying to your husband or wife seems like living a double life and you’re playing with fire.
If the spark between partners is gone, it’s better to be honest and confess. Maybe you can do something to save the marriage, but you don’t need to rely on lies or on fake feelings, just because you are scared of being alone and single.
Also, you don’t only lie to your partner, but you can lie to yourself as well. Don’t fake it ’till you make it, because it’s just a waste of time until you decide what you really want. Listen to yourself and trust your gut.
Just go and follow tip no 1. It’s always better to tell the truth, even if lying it’s easier and sometimes less painful.
3. Emotional distance
There was a quote saying that women tend to break up emotionally before telling their partners that they don’t want that relationship anymore. I think this is the truth for both females and males. At first, you lose the interest and the feelings. After that, you lose the entire marriage.
If you want to save your relationship, it’s best to try and speak up. If you don’t do anything and you leave everything just like it is, it’s just going down.
Decide what you want. Being emotionally unavailable and still in a relationship don’t work well.
4. No sex
There is a no brainer that when it comes to relationships, sex is important, but there isn’t a one size fits all when it comes to intimacy between partners. Some couple are happy with this activity more often, while some rarely do this and are content.
Besides communication, sex can be seen as the glue that holds together the marriage. If one of the partners, or even both of them, doesn’t feel the need to be intimate, it means that something is off. The couple can try and work through this obstacle by talking, trying new things, or even go to a counselor.
5. Expressing contempt
When a couple is contemptuous of each other and also disrespectful, it’s a clear sign that their marriage is almost over. There’s nothing worse than treating your partner badly, after saying yes at the altar.
Although sometimes it’s normal to have a conflict or even a fight here and there, because everyone’s different, it’s not a good sign for a married couple to start addressing disrespectful words to each other.
You can try and remediate the situation and maybe talk to a specialist – if you can – but if there’s nothing left you can do, just sign the divorce papers.
We know that everything is easier said than done. It’s not hard to tell somebody to just break up, because it doesn’t worth it. What’s hard is accepting that your relationship is in trouble and you have to let it go.
Even though it can be challenging walking out of a marriage, you have to remember that you don’t have to stay if you are feeling unhappy. You can read these signs again and if you decide that your relationship is not doing well and you can’t do anything about it, it’s better to say goodbye.