10. They make excuses for their destructive behavior
Whatever they did, whatever they said, there was always a plausible reason behind their behavior.
They use excuses such as “I was tired”, “I was stressed from work”, “I drank too much, etc.” “This gives their brain permission to repeat the behavior the next time the context occurs ― that is, whenever the abuser wants adrenaline for temporary energy and confidence,” says Steven Stosny, psychologist and author of Empowered Love.
See also 5 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship.
Someone who loves you will not make you do things you don’t want to do, put you down and make you feel guilty for whatever happens in your relationship.
Someone who loves you for real appreciates who you are, values your opinions and supports you in every way possible. Healthy and functional relationships are based on mutual trust and supportiveness.
Find out more from these 10 Signs Your Relationship Is Solid as a Rock.
If you find yourself in an abusive relationship or just got out of one, don’t hesitate to talk to a therapist, join a support group or even discuss with a close friend or family member to help you find a way out.
