1. No interest in your life
Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean that your significant other doesn’t care at all about how your day was or when you talk about your work, friends, or family. They might have a hard day and don’t want to invest a lot of energy in subjects like these.
However, if you constantly have to ask them to come with you at family gatherings or at a friend’s party and everything feels like begging and pulling teeth, there might be something going on.
Needless to say, your partner doesn’t have to show up to all the events you’re invited to, but they should definitely be making an effort to participate in all sorts of things that are meaningful to you.
…If you’re always begging your partner to come with you to all the things you find important, it’s surely a red flag!
2. You’re scared of being honest
Of course, you want to feel as comfortable as possible around the people you share all of your life with, and it’s understandable that you want to openly discuss everything that comes to mind and that makes you feel insecure. Besides that, you might also want to have the possibility to ask for explanations when there’s something you don’t understand.
But if the simple thought of having a serious conversation with your partner makes you feel scared or anxious, that’s not okay. Are you scared that your partner is going to think that you’re too much, “crazy,” or overly emotional if you ask them for certain things? Do you feel that you can’t express your real feelings and concerns with them? If your answer to these questions is yes, you should reconsider things.
3. Things will get better when…
Think about this situation for a bit: you and your partner have a few problems in your relationship; you’re not exactly happy, and something tells you that your needs aren’t being fully met. However, you blame all sorts of external factors, such as your jobs, your lifestyle, the place you live, etc.
And you try to convince yourself that things will surely get better once you move to a different place, or once they get that new job they’ve been dreaming about for quite a while. Unfortunately, this is not true.
In reality, if things haven’t been getting better for quite a while and you’re not actively doing your best to change the dynamic between you two, chances are that they are more likely to remain unchanged. Things won’t suddenly change just because there’s something different in your life.
4. You want your relationship because you’ve invested time
Do you often have thoughts of ending things with your partner? What are your arguments for continuing the relationship? If the main reason is that you’ve invested a lot of time in it or that you think you won’t find someone else, then guess what? You should probably call it quits.
…You should avoid choosing the incorrect person out of self-doubt or peer pressure! It’s for the best.
