1. Play hard to get
This is an ancient myth that used to be told to young girls who were looking for a boyfriend. Older people used to tell them that if they play hard to get, boys will be more interested because their hunter instincts will kick in. Well, not much good advice if you ask us.
Don’t take it the wrong way, because a little mystery never hurt anybody, but you don’t want to play silly games here! It has been shown many times that usually, playing hard to get just ensures that you and your partner will end up alone.
“The dating scene is competitive, and few individuals have the time to pursue someone who isn’t showing any interest,” Anderson explains. “Stop playing these pointless games and show some interest in me.” You’ll be giving yourself a lot more chances to interact with folks you might not have met otherwise.
In conformity with James Anderson, the dating expert at Beyond Ages, the dating world is already competitive and this is why nobody has the time and patience to continue pursuing someone who doesn’t show any interest.
2. Don’t make the first move
You should follow this piece of advice 100% if you want to… keep waiting! This comes from older times when women were told to never ask a man out because they have to make the first move!
We are sorry to disappoint these people, but expecting someone to make the first move might never happen! If you want something bad enough, you should go for it! Just like Anderson says, you need to have a little courage to make the first move when it comes to dating (whether you are a woman or a man), and you might be surprised with the results!
Plus, would you want to wonder what it would have been like if you would have followed your guts?
3. Living together is a preview for your life as a couple
There are not that many couples who have a smooth move-in experience, so if you feel like living together for the first time will be a preview for your future together, you’re wrong!
Patty Newbold, a marital educator, explains that there are a lot of healthy, happy couples who didn’t start off as compatible. They have developed their relationship skills by dealing with minor conflicts. This will make the couple prepared for the major ones that will arise later.
Tip: Create a lifestyle and a home that both of you enjoy, and do it together! By doing so, you’ll be prepared for any diseases, losses, disabilities, work changes, character flaws, or childrearing issues that might arise later!
