…Are you open with your partner?

You already know that if you want to get along with your partner, you have to put a lot of work in and actually make it a priority to communicate and share things with each other. Even though it’s always a good idea to keep things simple and real, sometimes too much honesty can actually do more harm than good.

We know that it sounds weird, given the fact that in all our previous articles we’ve told you countless times that communication is key and you should always talk to your significant other.

But there are a few conversation topics that you should keep to yourself. Not only for the sake of the person you love, but also for the stability of your partnership. Things can seem a bit contradictory, so here’s an example. You know that it is important to allow your partner to see your vulnerable side, as it will bring you closer, but you shouldn’t talk to them for hours and hours about your ex. Do you know what we mean?

Some things are better left unsaid, or at least not talked about too much. But we’ll discuss this topic more on the next page because here are things you should never talk about with your partner:

1. Things you hate about their family 

Your partner has their own family, and whether they’re chill or very noisy, you can’t exchange them. Of course, you can tell your partner that you feel like their siblings aren’t very friendly to you. They will surely understand and try to make things better for both parties the next time you get together.

But if you suddenly start complaining about how much you don’t like them, you won’t be helpful to your significant other and you’ll actually put them in an uncomfortable position. Their family is going to be there whether you like it or not, so you should find a way to set some boundaries and somehow get along.

If you complain to your partner and say how much you wish their relatives would be totally different, that will only cause potential harm to your romance story.

2. Your ex

While it’s perfectly fine to have honest conversations about past relationships and the things you’ve learned from those experiences, it’s not the smartest idea to talk about ex-lovers over and over again. And also, you shouldn’t bring up intimate details, because it might trigger insecurities in your current relationship.

But if you both feel comfortable enough with each other and you believe that it won’t cause any harm to your relationship, you can totally share more details about each other’s past experiences. But you have to be sure that you’re both okay with that; otherwise, you might project those insecurities onto one another.

3. Intimate details 

Everyone is different, so if you both like talking about things you did with different people in the past, then go for it. But for the majority of couples, bringing up intimate details can feel painful and annoying.

That’s because knowing personal details like these would make people compare themselves with those you’ve talked about. And we all know that when there are plenty of insecurities, things can get bad pretty fast.

4. Personal traumas 

Many people have things that affected them and made them feel bad, and they don’t want to talk about them. It’s perfectly fine to discuss situations that made them feel hurt, but you shouldn’t ask them a lot of questions or details, especially if you notice that they’re not comfortable telling you.

It’s best to wait and respect their privacy. They will tell you everything you need to know when they feel ready. If you rush them and are impatient, they might feel scared and think that you won’t understand what they’ve been through.

The same principles apply to your situation as well. If you had something that you didn’t like in the past and somehow it influenced your life, you should talk about it when you’re ready to do it, without being pressured by people around you.

5. What friends and family think about your relationship 

Just like you don’t have the power to change your significant other’s family, you can’t change what other people think about your relationship. If some of your friends or members of your family say mean things about your relationship, your partner doesn’t need to know all the details about it. You might risk hurting them or even ruining the friendship they might have with people that are typically close to you.

And not to mention, if someone says bad things about the dynamic between you and your partner and you don’t agree with them, tell them exactly what you think. You know that you can’t make everyone happy, but when it comes to your romantic life, it’s your job and your partner’s to handle things, not everyone else’s.

…Do you have any topics you prefer to keep to yourself and not get your significant other involved in? Share your story with us in the comments!

…If you want to be more romantic and show your partner how much you cherish them, but don’t know how to do it, we are here to help you out! Check this article for some of our best tips: 7 Easy Ways to Show Your Partner You Love Them!