Relationships are messy, fun, beautiful, tricky, annoying, hard – sometimes, all at once. For many people who grew up watching romantic movies, television dramas, or reading cheesy books, dealing with real-life experiences might be a tiny bit harder than expected.

Some of us might have a distorted perception when it comes to beliefs regarding romantic relationships. But what we have in mind might not be the same as what reality actually is.

I am sure you saw that what appears to be all fun and games in books or movies takes a lot of work in real life. Maybe these are myths that we’ve heard from television, our parents, our grandparents, or from books… it’s time we debunk them!

1. Easy-going

Let’s thank Hollywood movies and romance books for this common misconception! Some people tend to believe that relationships are easy. That partners understand each other every time, or that if they fight they will make up in a few minutes.

They believe that loving someone should feel like an easy thing to do, effortlessly, but let’s be honest, it’s nothing further from the truth!

In reality, relationships are nothing like the ones in fairytales. You don’t see someone for a second and boom, you’re getting married the next month! Although it might feel like a fairy tale at the beginning of a relationship, it needs time, affection, and effort from both of the partners!

Fights, miscommunication, disagreements, and issues are not easy, but they are normal in a relationship, and they have to be overcome, in order to feel happy and loved.

2. Jealousy equals love

Uhm…NO! We don’t need another lie from the pop culture era in our lives! Are you curious if your partner is in love with you? Make them jealous! If they get upset and possessive when they see you chit-chatting with someone else, it has to mean that they love you.

WRONG!

Jealousy is not a sign of love, deep care, and a healthy relationship, but is actually a sign of toxicity! There is nothing wrong, with a teeny-tiny bit of jealousy, but when it turns into possessiveness, that’s what drives many couples apart.

3. Fights are not allowed!

Fights are not a good part of relationships, but people have to understand that they are normal! We’re not saying that you should go home and yell at your partner out of the blue, but if it happens, it doesn’t mean that you will break up.

Some people tend to believe that couples who are great don’t have arguments! The truth is that there are people who don’t fight, but some of them might keep themselves quiet because they are trying to avoid conflict.

As long as you solve all of your problems and you are not aggressive (verbally and physically), fights have the ability to make a relationship stronger. What matters is the partners’ attitude regarding the conflict, and how they decide to solve it.

4. Let’s get married and have a baby!

This might be something that people have learned from their grandmothers or great-great-grandmothers, but it’s not alright! If a couple already has problems in their relationship, getting married, or deciding to conceive without having their issues solved won’t do anything well.

It will add even more pressure on them, making the partners sick of each other. Marriage and conceiving are important decisions that should be taken in a place where love is the most important, it’s not a remedy for fights and problems regarding relationships!

5. I know what you’re thinking of!

Not everyone is a psychic, so how can you expect to know exactly what your partner is thinking of? Unfortunately, we are not able to guess and anticipate everyone’s gestures, moods, and needs.

Of course, when partners have been together for a long period of time, they know one another’s little quirks, likes, and dislikes, but they can not know how the other person is feeling. This is why everyone says that communication is the key to a healthy and strong relationship!

6. Secrets are forbidden!

We have often been advised to not keep secrets from our partners. Yes, this one is another myth that has to be confronted!

Although a healthy and strong relationship doesn’t have any space for lies, the truth is that you don’t have to give every little detail about your thoughts or actions. We are not talking about big and important secrets, but about small details that are only important for you!

8. Don’t go to bed if you are still angry

This one is another ancient myth that people used to believe: don’t go to bed angry. This means that you have to solve all the issues from the day before you tuck yourself in. But that is not always best, because arguing when you are already annoyed might make things worse.

There are times when it’s better to sleep on something that can make you feel more irritated. After a good night’s sleep, you are calm and well-rested, and you can tackle the problem with more clarity.

TAKEAWAY 

Whether these are myths that come from movies, romance books, or they are only ancient things that still exist, we can’t argue with the fact that they are not true! People shouldn’t judge things in their relationships based on these types of myths!

Also, given the fact that there is no perfect recipe or one size fits all when it comes to a romantic relationship, it’s best for everyone to keep experimenting until they find the right person!

What do you think about these relationship myths people used to believe? Do you agree with them, or do you think they are just ridiculous? Share your opinions with us by leaving a comment down below!