…Have you ever noticed any red flags in your relationship?

It’s easier to see the flaws in a relationship when you’re not actually a part of it, but rather an outsider. You can be objective, address things exactly as they are and be okay with whatever the solution might be. However, when 2 people are a couple and their relationship has quite a few problems, it’s surely harder for them to notice all the wrong things.

But it’s not impossible! If you pay enough attention and you try to dissociate your feelings from what’s actually happening, you’ll surely be able to see if there are any red flags there. But if you’re still confused about the state of your relationship, we are here to help you see things more clearly.

Here are 6 relationships red flags you should pay attention to:

1. They share your secrets 

When two people are together and they have a strong connection, they will surely start sharing information they won’t usually tell someone else. But in order for something like this to happen, they have to build trust and get really comfortable with each other.

If you told your partner something that was supposed to be confidential and they happen to tell somebody else, that’s your first red flag. Of course, mistakes can always happen, but if they did it multiple times, it’s clear that they are not right for you.

2. They treat other people badly 

This one is really important because you can’t judge someone just by the way they treat you. Pay attention to the way your partner treats other people, such as staff at restaurants, people in the subway, or strangers passing by on the streets. They might put on a show and be on their best behavior when they’re around you, but you have to see them in different situations so that you can really see their true colors.

If they are mean or disrespectful to other people, you should know that it won’t take them a lot of time until they treat you the same way. You can either talk to them about their behavior and find a solution or you can let the relationship go and find someone more suitable for you.

3. You don’t feel comfortable around them

You can’t be very comfortable with someone straight from the moment you meet them, but if you decide to start a relationship with them, it means that you care about them and that you are willing to make an effort to get to know each other and be a team.

But if you’re already together for quite some time and there’s something in your gut that tells you something is off, maybe you shouldn’t neglect it. Are you scared to tell them something? Do you believe that if they see you doing a certain thing, they will completely change the way they think about you?

If your answer to these questions is yes then it’s a clear sign that there’s a red flag there. Pay attention to your behavior as well, because there might be something that won’t allow you to open up and be your real self. But if you feel that the vibe is coming from them, you should do something about it.

4. You don’t have the same values 

Just because you don’t have the same life values, whether it’s workplace, family, children, religion, future ideas, or grandkids, doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with either of you. You’re just in different life stages and you both need someone that is in the same place as you are.

…PS: As you already know, you can’t convince someone to completely change their values and ideas just so they can be on the same path as you are!

5. Their sense of humor hurts

It’s fun and soothing to be with someone who knows how to make you laugh and cheer you up when you don’t have the greatest day. Sure, everyone’s jokes are different, so it doesn’t matter if you and your partner have different senses of humor.

But here’s the catch: if their jokes are mean towards other people or to you, it means that there is something wrong with their jokes. Some people use their sense of humor just as a masked way to make fun of other people, but that doesn’t seem like a very confident partner.

6. They’re relationship hoppers 

A relationship hopper is a person that is always looking forward to being in a relationship with someone and they have no idea how they are outside of being someone’s partner.

Everyone takes their own time to heal and regroup after a relationship so that they can be ready for a new one, but if you date someone who doesn’t care about knowing you at all and all they want is for you to like them, then it is a problem. They have no idea what kind of people they are and they can’t feel better unless they are in a relationship.

…What do you think about these 6 red flags? Have you ever noticed any of these in your partner?

…If you find this article helpful and you want to read something else from us, check this one out as well: 7 Things That Make Partners Remain Faithful!