1. Let go of the desire of being right
We know that this is a tough habit to break, but you should try it if you want to make things better between the two of you. Many couples fight because one of them has a constant desire to be right, and they try to convince their partner that their actions are incorrect, irrational, or even inappropriate.
But why should you focus all of your energy on a fight rather than simply asking for what you want, especially when it’s something important to you? It doesn’t matter who’s the one who was right or wrong, what’s important is that both of you understand each other’s wants and needs and you make a decision to respect each other’s desires and demands.
2. Talk about what you feel
There’s a slight possibility that when you are in the middle of a fight and you’re incredibly angry and upset, you might fall into the trap of blaming your significant other for all the things they’ve done wrong. You might even say that everything that happens is actually their fault.
Instead of wasting your time thinking of all the things they did to you, it’s better and wiser to analyze your emotions. Tell them how you feel and give solid arguments; explain what you have in mind; and say what you want, rather than accusing them. It might be hard at first, but this is going to do wonders for your relationship in the future.
3. Listen to their arguments
One of the best pieces of advice we can give you is this one: stop thinking about the things you want to say and listen to what your partner tells you. If they aren’t very talkative, you can ask them questions, but you should carefully listen to their answers.
There are many times when people pretend that they listen, but they actually think of what they’re going to say next. Even though the main goal of a fight is to make things better for both partners, sometimes it’s hard to solve the issues, especially when the only thing you can focus on is whether the things your partner says are true or not.
Stop for a moment and take some time to actively listen to what they have to say, without worrying about whether it’s true or not. You can just listen, and when they’re done, you can ask them your questions.
