6.“Find a good lawyer and take them for everything they got.”
A divorce can bring a lot of mixed feelings, including pain, grief, fear, confusion, relief in some cases, and a lot of anger. You might feel very angry at the other person when you never wanted to get a divorce, or they’ve lied and cheated several times until you’re left with no other choice than this. It’s natural to feel angry when you’ve tried to make things work and you feel like the other person hasn’t tried enough.
However, a good friend shouldn’t fuel your desire for revenge. According to Dr. Walker, if you concentrate too much on the negative feeling and you’re constantly looking for revenge, you might not be able to move on with your life.
Anna, a woman who got divorced several years ago explained why this comment can be very hurtful. When you get divorced, no matter why you choose to do it, the other person doesn’t suddenly become this bad, bad person that deserves cold-hearted treatment.
Just because someone made mistakes doesn’t mean they’re the devil and should be treated as such. Just because you get a divorce doesn’t mean the other person becomes your enemy. Why they always have to be the bad guy? There is such thing as ending a beautiful marriage in a friendly manner.
As Dr. Walker has explained, a lot of people nowadays have started treating divorce differently than they used to back in the day. Divorce doesn’t necessarily have to be ugly. You can still treat each other with kindness and respect, and learn to communicate with each other for the sake of the children.
It’s important to create a co-parenting arrangement that works for both of you and your children as well. When there are children involved, you need to set aside your negative feelings, because it’s your responsibility to show your kids that they still got a family even though their parents are no longer together romantically. You need to find a healthy way to communicate with your ex for the wellbeing of your children.
Read also: 12 Common Reasons Why People Get a Divorce.
