You’ll have more time for your passions
Your husband was not the biggest fan of going to the theater, so you never got to enjoy a musical on Broadway. Your wife didn’t like sports, so you stopped going to your favorite basketball team’s games. When you no longer have to worry about pleasing your spouse to the detriment of your own hobbies, you can freely and happily do all the things your partner wasn’t interested in doing with you.
More than that, with a shedload of life experience behind you and a whole lot more confidence in yourself, doing those things by yourself will not make you feel awkward or embarrassed in any way.
It’s better for your children
Parents who are constantly distressed and irritated often project their feelings onto their children. According to a study carried out by researchers at Auburn University, arguments between parents can have a significant effect on the mental and physical state of their children. More than that, the study revealed that children witnessing their married parents’ unhappiness felt worse than if their parents got a divorce.
If you’ve had your children in your 20s or 30s, now that you’re in your 40’s it means they are also old enough to understand this kind of change and its beneficial effects for everyone involved, much better than they would have understood it in the past.
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You can reconsider your priorities
When you’re with someone, “me” and “my priorities” become “we” and “our priorities”. In a healthy marriage, it’s normal to think as a team but consider your individual priorities, as well. But in an unhappy marriage, there’s no individuality. “We have strong opinions about this political issue,” “We have rules in this house,” and so on and so forth.
When you and your spouse decide to go your separate ways, you get a new chance to set your priorities straight without being influenced by your partner. Your rules, your opinions and your actions.
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