We’ve talked about relationships many times on this website—whether it’s healthy and happy ones, messy relationships, heart-breaking divorces, cheating, you name it, we surely wrote something about it. But some of us can’t help but wonder, what exactly do we have to do to make our relationships better and more fulfilled?

It seems like some people really know how to make everything feel easy, comfortable, and full of love. If you’re one of those people who wants to learn what you need to do differently so that your current or next relationship can be the one that makes you feel the happiest you’ve ever been, you are going to love this article!

We’ve talked to several people who have been married for more than two decades and who were more than happy to share all the juicy information with us! So if you want to discover all the relationship secrets you might not have known until this moment, click on the next page to find out more!

1. Dating 

Do you remember the time you were just getting to know your partner and you used to date a lot? I’m sure you used to feel butterflies in your stomach, or maybe you’d spend hours and hours trying to pick up an outfit to make them crazy about you. Then you just talked and talked, and you couldn’t wait until the next date.

Where are those feelings now? I have a friend who once told me that she goes out with her boyfriend once a month to a fancy restaurant. They order their favorite food, they dress up, and they just talk about everything that comes to their minds.

This is exactly what a woman who’s been married to her husband for 30 years told us. She and her partner like to go for a drink every other week or when they have the chance to do it so that they can talk and feel connected to each other. Just because you’ve been with your significant other for quite a while doesn’t mean that the fun and cheerful period of dating should be over.

2. No restrictions 

There are a lot of people who try to put restrictions on their partners, whether it’s not allowing them to go out with their friends without them being there or telling them to quit their hobbies and passions.

Joanna, a woman from Chicago told us that she and her husband make sure to always talk about what they want to do and why and they always come up with the best solutions on how to make everything better for both of them. “You have to talk to each other and don’t put any restrictions regarding one’s likes because that gives off the feeling that you don’t trust each other. That is the secret to my marriage”, Joanna said.

3. Sense of humor and support

A woman named Bertha, who’s from New Jersey, told us that she’s always cared about her husband’s likes and passions, so she tried to understand him and support all of his goals. “Trust is the most important thing if you want to get along with your significant other”, she stated when we asked her what their secret was.

Other than that, Bertha said that having a sense of humor is also the glue to a healthy partnership because it’s a lot easier to face problems when you have someone that will make you laugh no matter what.

4. Don’t lose who you are

Just because you’re involved in a serious and long-lasting relationship doesn’t mean that you should completely forget about who you are, your friends, and your interests outside of the relationship.

Many people say that it’s really important to still be your own person and enjoy all the things that make you happy, as well as spending time with your significant other and doing things that you both enjoy.

5. Maintenance

We know that the word “maintenance” might sound weird when we put it next to relationship, but that’s actually what you have to do to make things work and always be your best self. You have to prioritize talking to each other about your problems and all those things that you might be tempted to ignore.

Even though you might not solve all of your problems when you talk about them, at least you know that there is something that needs to be addressed and worked on.

6. Positive couples

You know that the majority of people say that you should surround yourself with people who are positive and energetic, and ones that uplift you when you need it. The same rule applies when it comes to your life as a couple as well. If you only hang out with couples that always complain about each other and fight, you are more likely to adopt the same behavior when it comes to your relationship as well.

Hang out with couples that are happy to be with each other and that make it a priority to talk about everything they want. If you’re surrounded by positive people who motivate you and give you an example of what a healthy relationship should look like, you’ll see everything differently, trust us!

…Have you ever tried any of these tips? Tell us in the comments down below!

…If you enjoyed reading this article and you want to know more about how to spice up your love life, check this one out as well: 5 Super Ordinary Things Men Wish Women Would Wear in Bed!