We don’t know what you think about love or how you suppose that it should manifest, but we believe that there is no such thing as a one-size-fits-all when it comes to romanticism. Unfortunately, magic doesn’t exist, so we are not able to see in the future and predict what is going to happen.

Let’s take marriage, for example. You are crazy in love with your partner, and you might believe that you are going to grow old together. Although it might be true for some people, there are couples who say that the spark is gone, they don’t love each other anymore and they decide to go their separate ways.

There is no perfect recipe that can help people stick together, but there are a few things that everyone can try out. The editors at Divorce Magazine spent a lot of time reaching and searching for stories about several love topics, such as separation, divorce, or ways to sustain and live in a healthy marriage.

If you are one of those people that are scared that their marriages are going to fall apart, the writers at Divorce Magazine have decided to give you their best tips and tricks in order to prevent divorce.

These 8 recommendations might help you resolve the issues with your current partner, or will help you know what you should do in a future relationship. Either way, there is no reason why you shouldn’t read this piece!

1. Make connection a priority!

Unfortunately, the spark between two people won’t last a long time if it’s not being taken care of! According to some studies, by dedicating as little as 15 minutes each day to each other, it is believed that a couple can greatly boost their chances of marital success.

If you have a busy schedule or if you simply have no idea how to get close to your partner, you may, for example, get up a little earlier and spend that time cuddling, making love, and even reaffirming your love for each other in bed.

Take time each day to have meaningful conversations with each other; to listen with the same intensity with which you listened when you were dating, to touch, hug, and show affection. Dinner time is always a good place and moment to have a meaningful conversation about marriage and life objectives.

2. Compliments will never go out of fashion!

It would be a lie to say that there are people who hate being complimented! This is a sort of affirmation and validation that you might not need to receive from other people, but when you do, it makes you happy.

Think about the beginning of your relationship, when you and your partner were completely in love with each other, and you couldn’t help yourselves, but complement one another all the time!

This doesn’t mean that you should tell your spouse how beautiful they are from the moment when you wake up until you go to bed, but telling them how much you appreciate them from time to time will do wonders for your relationship.

Don’t be afraid to compliment your spouse in the comfort of your own home or in front of other people. Even if your partner might seem a little ashamed of it, don’t worry, they will get used to it!… They may even secretly love it!

3. Love them the way they want to be loved!

Everyone wants to feel loved, but there are different ways of loving and caring for somebody. Many times, people believe that they should express their feelings towards someone the way they would want them to in return. For example, you might have the idea that flowers are always a good gift, but your partner might prefer something else.

If you don’t know what is making your spouse happy, try your best and find out! It doesn’t matter if it’s a date at the cinema or if it is a casserole with lunch. You have to remember that the biggest gesture of love is something your partner wants and needs, not something YOU want them to have.

4. Don’t neglect your physique! 

We don’t know about you, but we’ve seen a lot of people who got into some serious relationships but completely forgot about themselves. They got extremely comfortable and forgot the things that made them happy, such as wearing nice clothes, shaving, eating healthy, working out, and so many other things.

Just because you might be involved in a long-term relationship it doesn’t mean that you should neglect your appearance! There is nothing wrong with being a couch potato or a hot mess every now and then, but you have to remember to take care of yourself just as you do with your partner!

5. Do something together!

Another great way to keep the relationship alive and happy is to have activities that you both enjoy doing together! You get to spend time just the two of you, so why not make the most out of it, and find something that is exciting and fun?

Whether it’s going to the cinema to see a new-released movie, going bowling, playing a board game, or even going for a stroll in your neighborhood, you should make it a priority to participate at least once a week doing something just for the two of you!

6. Spend some time apart!

This might seem like a joke after we’ve just told you that you and your partner should do activities together every week. However, there are many studies that suggest you should participate in activities that bring you joy, regardless of whether your spouse wants to join you or not.

In addition to that, if each one of you goes to a course or a club that you enjoy, you are more likely to spawn more interest between you! Don’t be sad if your partner wants to hang out with their friends one night, they will miss you more afterward!

7. Friends before lovers! 

According to John Gottman, who is a psychology professor, the key to a healthy and happy relationship is to be friends with your partner before being lovers!

This means that you should know each other very well, and you should respect and love one another. A marriage that it’s based on friendship is more likely going to succeed!

For example, during an interview, actress Blake Lively said that she knew her husband, Ryan Reynolds, long before they got together. She remembered that they were talking about how both of them were single, while they were promising one another that they are going to find someone.

They talked for over a year, until Lively suggested that maybe they should try dating, given the fact that they get along as friends. What can we say? It seems like it really worked out well because they have been married for 10 years now and they have three beautiful children together.

8. Don’t forget to say “I love you!”

You don’t have to say it every day, just like you would recite a poem at kindergarten, but you shouldn’t forget about these three special words! Tell your partner you love them and show them you care about them! Making little gestures that show affection, will make your relationship happier and stronger!

TAKEAWAY 

What do you think about this subject? Have you ever tried any of these tips? If yes, did any of them work out? We are curious to know about your experience, so let us know about them by leaving a comment in the section down below!