The moment you find something that works wonders for you and your partner, you might be tempted to stick to it, and forget about what other fun things you can try. The sad thing is that you can get bored pretty quickly if you are only doing things that you are used to doing. Being intimate with your partner should be fun and adventurous, not boring.

There are many cases where even people who are in a long-term relationship are afraid to be honest with their partners and tell them exactly what they want in bed. Might be because they are afraid to speak their minds, or maybe they don’t want to give off the impression that their other halves are not doing a good job.

If people don’t say exactly what they are looking for in bed, how can they manage to have an active and fun bedroom life? There is no need to be shy when it comes to intimacy because it’s an activity where people want to make one another happy and satisfied.

Now that you have a vague idea about today’s topic, it is time to talk about 10 things people are afraid to ask for in bed!

• “special” talking –  some people really like this kind of thing, but they might be afraid to ask for it. The reason why they love it? Because it can put them in “a playful mood”, and it might make their intimate time more fun and successful. If you have never tried it, you might be surprised by the results.
• trying new positions – experimenting with your body during that time might surprise you. Although some people might be more comfortable with what they know best, there is something exciting and a little bit scary when you are trying something you are not familiar with. Even though it might not work for the first time, or maybe you and your partner will have to keep experimenting to discover what both of you like, you should go for it and keep exploring! It will keep both of you more engaged and captivated during that time.
• different situations that will excite you – there are many things that can make people get in their zones when it comes to bedroom life. However, there are cases when people who have been together for a really long time get bored (more or less) of it. This doesn’t mean that they no longer care about each other, but they might crave something new. Unfortunately, not everyone has the courage to admit it, but according to several relationship and dating experts, trying different positions that can excite you can be a great way to get out of your comfort zone. It gives you the chance to add a little sugar and spice to your relationship. If you are not sure if your partner is into that, you can try it once and see how they react.  
• Watch films together (for inspiration)– this is not brand-new information. There are a lot of couples who are already watching these types of movies together. That’s because this activity might give them a few tips and tricks, a few ideas, and why not, it will get them in the mood. If you try this with your partner, you might get a hint regarding what they would like but are not saying it. By watching these types of videos you can open up a conversation about things both of you are into. Go ahead and try it out!
• giving attention to that area – some people are afraid to ask for this because they feel they might be judged for it. There is no need to do that. However, if you see that your partner doesn’t want to talk about it, you can take the initiative and work from there.

• try a different location – this one is a must for spicing up your relationship! It is boring to only be intimate in your bedroom or on the living room couch. Try something new, such as a hotel, in the woods, in the back seat of your car, even on the kitchen table. Think outside of the box with this one and have fun! If you are feeling dangerous, you can go to a public place, such as a park when there are no people. However, you can never know when somebody will walk by. Knowing that you can get caught at any time can make it more enjoyable and passionate.
• random grabs – this one is an element of surprise because your partner will not expect you to come around them and grab their special places. This can turn into an impromptu intimate session, that will give you a guess about your partner’s desires.
• add toys – it doesn’t matter what toys you are thinking about, they can be a really great add-on, in order to have a special night or day. These toys can help both of you have a more enjoyable time together, so don’t be afraid to ask for them or to use them!
• warm-up – there are people who might need more warm-up in order to be ready for “‘things” to happen, while there are others that are willing to skip it and get straight to the intense part. However, if you are one of the people that need an increased amount of warm-up to be sure they are ready, or you simply like it very much, you should not be afraid to tell your partner so. The more “warmed up” you are, the more the activity that follows will mean for both of you.
• cuddling and kisses after – there are many people, regardless of age or gender, who like to kiss and cuddle after their intimate activity finishes. And let’s be honest, it would be a little weird to go to separate corners after it’s done. If you feel like your partner doesn’t give you the affection you crave after it’s over, make sure you tell them without being scared. Everybody has their own needs, so you don’t have to be afraid you are going to be judged!

TAKEAWAY 

What do you think about these? Have you ever been afraid to tell your partner what you want? If yes, why were you scared, and what have you done? We are curious about your experiences, so make sure to let us know by leaving a comment in the section down below!