No one likes to go through it, but we all have experienced at least once in our lifetime how painful a breakup can be. While breaking up is very hard, learning how to handle all the post-breakup blues is even more challenging.
After separating from a long-lasting partner it can be very hard to rediscover yourself, even when breaking up was the right choice. But how can you deal with it without being tempted to get back together with your ex?
Read on to discover the 4 most efficient ways to get over a breakup!
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Don’t hide your pain. Let it all out.
Breakups hurt, and no one can tell you otherwise. Even if you dated for a month, a year, or even more, you’re allowed to suffer after letting someone go. While you might be tempted to hide all of your emotions just because you don’t want to feel so bad anymore, it’s definitely not the healthiest and most efficient way to move on.
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After breaking up with someone who was once important to you, or maybe still is, it’s normal to feel sad, heartbroken, and even lost. You can’t move on by skipping the suffering part. It’s a healing process that requires one to accept the pain and let it all out.
If you’re hiding your emotions after breaking up, you might not get the closure you need to move on. That’s why feeling pain is also important, even though it’s not very nice. Allow yourself to feel the hurt, even though it might be overwhelming. It’s won’t be like this forever. In fact, it will get easier day by day. Also, you don’t have to go through a breakup alone.
Invite your best friends over and let them get your mind off it. If you feel like talking about it, call a friend and let it all out. It’s also very helpful to get rid of all your ex’s objects, watch romantic movies, and listen to sad songs.
You need to cut all contact.
Probably one of the most important rules when breaking up with someone is to cut all contact. Sometimes people break up in a friendly manner, other times it ends in a huge fight and maybe a ‘block’ on social media. No matter how your relationship ended, and even though you want to be friends with them down the line, you need to keep your distance for a while, until you both manage to move on.
Why? Cutting all contact will give you space to process what happened, time to grieve, and to start new. Even though it might be tempting, you should try not to text, call, or even stalk them on social media, it will certainly help you heal faster.
However, you don’t have to act like this forever, you need to cut all contact until you’re not feeling so vulnerable anymore and you moved one. If you just can’t stay away from your ex, call one of your best friends every time you feel tempted to get in contact with your ex, it will take your mind off it.
Also, you can find other ways to distract yourself, including going for a run or working out, as it will help you relax and calm your mind.
You need to focus on yourself.
When getting out of a serious relationship, most people feel like they’ve left a piece of their soul in their past relationship, and getting it back it’s not always very easy. But the old you is still there, it just needs time to heal. But why not discover a new side of yourself you didn’t even know you have?
Even though breaking up it’s not a very fun experience, you can learn a lot about yourself. Now it’s the best time to find new passions and hobbies. Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn to play the guitar but never had the time. Now you have all the time in the world. Make your breakup fun and create new memories with other people.
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Do not rush to get into a new relationship.
Many people think the best way to get over a relationship is to get into a new one. But are you ready to date again if you haven’t moved on? Jumping into a new relationship might appear like the easiest way to heal, but trust me, it isn’t.
Starting a new relationship with another person when you didn’t manage to get over your previous partner means you’re probably not ready to commit. You might even start comparing your current partner with your ex, and most of the time, these types of relationships don’t work.
Instead of giving your whole attention to a new person, focus on healing and focusing on yourself. Start a new chapter only when you’re ready, take the time to grieve until it doesn’t hurt anymore. Additionally, surround yourself with people who care about you, respect, and appreciate your presence.
Take the time to focus on yourself and make it all about you. Put yourself first, you’re allowed to be selfish for a while. Take the time to suffer and accept the pain, you don’t need to feel guilty for showing emotion. Hang out with people who love and appreciate you, do things that make you happy and you’ll manage to get over your breakup in no time.