9. Myth: You’ll manage to change your partner’s behavior and annoying habits.
Your marriage is doomed to failure if you start your journey as a newlywed couple by trying to change your partner’s behavior. While it’s natural to not like everything about them, trying to change them is a whole other thing.
Just because you tied the knot doesn’t mean your spouse will stop doing their annoying habits, such as chewing gum with their mouth open, that you hate so much. While I agree that some habits might be really annoying, it’s important that you love your spouse for who they are, otherwise, your relationship will likely fail.
Expecting someone to change just because they love you is pure manipulation, explains Dave Willis, author of The Seven Laws of Love. Even though people tend to change over the course of their lifetime, it’s not fair to expect them to make major changes.
Read also: 13 Ways Marriage Counselors Can Tell a Relationship Won’t Last.
