9.Refuse to talk about what you feel
Social media is not the answer to tell your side of the story but you can still talk to your close friends or therapist about your divorce. You have all sorts of feelings and emotions you need to deal with and having someone to listen and understand you can help you heal and recover faster.
It’s good to know you can rely on someone without being criticized or judged; if you have that one person, don’t hesitate to open up about what you feel. It will help your self-esteem and mood in more ways than one.
See also 13 Ways Marriage Counselors Can Tell a Relationship Won’t Last.
10.Argue about things you don’t care about
If you have a pet that you both want after the breakup, things could get a little bit trickier and arguments and fights could ensue. You both love it and it’s natural to want to enjoy your pet’s company even if you are your partner are not together anymore.
But if you’re fighting with your ex over things that you don’t really care about, only to spite them, you’d better stop. It might seem satisfying to see them walking away empty-handed, but it doesn’t mean you won. Therefore, before you start an argument over who gets what, think long and hard if the things you’re planning on arguing over are really worth your time and stress. Do they really mean something to you or are they just another opportunity to hurt your ex?
11.Hide your money
Even if the divorce has been finalized for quite some time, some people still keep their money in secret places, out of the reach of any greedy exes. However, hiding your money will only work against you, especially if your ex-spouse finds out.
Just because you’re no longer living under the same roof, doesn’t mean your money cannot continue to grow in your mutual fund. If you want to separate your money, at least be honest about it so that you can both benefit in the end.
Check out These 5 Money Issues Can Bring Trouble In ANY Relationship.
12.Avoid social gatherings because your ex will be present
Do you really think it’s a good idea to isolate yourself inside your house instead of attending a holiday party just because of your ex? You can’t avoid every anniversary, Thanksgiving dinner or social gathering for as long as you both shall live. It’s not healthy for you and it sure isn’t going to help you feel better about yourself.
It’s normal not wanting to see your ex every time but it’s better to cope with the fact that you’re bound to meet on several occasions and spend more than a few seconds in the same room. Why not rip the band-aid and do it sooner rather than later so you can both move on with your lives?
13.Eat your feelings away
You might find a temporary relief in a Ben&Jerry tube, but that’s just it, the feeling doesn’t last. All that binge eating will not only make you even more depressed shortly after the eating session is over but it will also make you gain weight, which will only add to your self-worth and self-respect issues.
The most efficient way to go on with your life after a messy divorce is to love yourself again, flaws and all, and realize that happiness does not come in the form of chocolate.
Speaking of which, Can’t Stop Craving Chocolate? This Is What It Says About Your Health.
14.Drown your sorrow in alcohol
Sure, you might feel that alcohol help you cope with your divorce better, but it’s just an illusion. No matter how you look at it, alcohol is bad. It might make you feel good for a while, a very short while, but in the long run, apart from burning a hole in your wallet, it will leave you feeling worse than before.
“All this wine and beer has made me less disappointed about my divorce and helped me feel like myself again realize that I’m capable of making smarter choices in the future,” said no one ever. Do you really think things will be different for you!
On the other hand, these are the 7 ‘Vices’ Your Doctor Actually Wants You to Have.
