15.Keep in touch with your ex’s parents
If you were really close to your former father and mother-in-law, extracting yourself from their lives might be harder than the actual divorce, if not harder. After all, it’s not every day you get to meet and deeply connect with other people, especially in-laws.
However, maintaining a close relationship with them will not help either of you. You won’t be able to get on with your life, neither will your ex, if you keep calling, showing up and meeting their parents.
16.Blame yourself, or your ex, or anybody
In some cases, the reasons behind a couple’s divorce are clear as the day (like cheating) and it’s obvious who was responsible for the marriage’s demise. However, in many other cases, it’s difficult to point the finger at the culprit because there are many reasons that caused the breakup.
If you’ve done your fair share of thinking about the reasons’ for your marriage’s downfall, you surely know that blaming someone else for everything is too easy and silly, actually.
17.Apologize for being divorced
Let’s get one thing straight: apologizing should only be done for something you did wrong. Being a divorcee does not mean you have a disease or something. It also doesn’t mean you failed at life. A divorce is merely an adjustment you had to make in your life in order to set it back on its right course, not a mistake you need to apologize for.
Look on the bright side: you were not afraid to admit your marriage had problems that could not be solved and brave enough to put an end to something that hurt both you and your partner. If that’s not something you should be proud of, I don’t know what is!
18.Keep tabs on your ex’s dating life
Constantly checking on your ex’s social media account or asking around about his flings will not help you move on faster. If not, it will keep you trapped in the past, hurt you and possibly make you do or say something you’ll regret sooner or later. Keeping tabs on your former spouse to see if they’ve started a new relationship so that you could do the same is also not a good excuse.
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19.Stop exercising
Exercising and having an active lifestyle is not something you need to do just to spite your ex with your post-divorce body. Exercising has a significant positive impact on your health and well-being in general, physical and mental.
A nice workout session can boost your mood, help you feel better about yourself and avoid depression, by increasing the serotonin levels in your brain. Try working out for at least 30 minutes. You’ll definitely see the results! On that note, here are 8 Unexpected Benefits of Regular Exercise.
20.Forget to laugh
Similar to exercise, laughter can improve your mood and cure your post-divorce blues. According to the American Heart Association, a good, every day laugh can lower stress and anxiety levels and reduce inflammation in the arteries. Better heart health equals a better life, divorcee or not.
So, stop wallowing in self-pity and listening to depressive music and do things that make you laugh like hanging out with friends, watching comedies…living your life, to put it bluntly.
