There isn’t a magic recipe on how to make someone love you infinitely, just like there isn’t a fantastic trick to help you love someone forever. Sometimes things work and sometimes they don’t. I feel like in a relationship it’s normal to change, but it has to be a change that both partners are willing to commit.

When you get married, you hear a quote saying ”Till death do us part”. This doesn’t guarantee you a healthy and loving relationship. In order to do that, you have to pay attention to your partner’s needs and really communicate. If a couple tries and tries, but nothing works, maybe a divorce will do wonders for you.

Maybe you don’t know what your partner wants, but there are some clues that you can analyze and find out. Usually, before a divorce, people implied in a relationship tend to have some changes in their behavior. Just keep reading this article and find out about the signs that indicate a marriage break up.

1. No communication

What a pity that you can’t read someone’s mind. It would’ve made things so much easier for the couple who don’t talk that much.

The lack of communication can be seen as a lack of interest and feelings. When you don’t speak to somebody, you give the impression that you don’t care. And if you don’t, why did you get married in the first place?

It doesn’t matter if you don’t share that much, but you can tell your partner what’s been bothering you. Also, if your spouse seems to ignore you, just be honest and say something. Try and bring up a conversation and fix the problems. If it doesn’t work… I guess you know where that goes.

The next one is obvious, but how many people are actually doing it?

2. Lying to your partner

If you don’t have honest communication, I don’t think there’s a point in the relationship. Lying to your husband or wife seems like living a double life and you’re playing with fire.

If the spark between partners is gone, it’s better to be honest and confess. Maybe you can do something to save the marriage, but you don’t need to rely on lies or on fake feelings, just because you are scared of being alone and single.

Also, you don’t only lie to your partner, but you can lie to yourself as well. Don’t fake it ’till you make it, because it’s just a waste of time until you decide what you really want. Listen to yourself and trust your gut.

Just go and follow tip no 1. It’s always better to tell the truth, even if lying it’s easier and sometimes less painful.

The next one is the first stage of a breakup…

3. Emotional distance

There was a quote saying that women tend to break up emotionally before telling their partners that they don’t want that relationship anymore. I think this is the truth for both females and males. At first, you lose interest and feelings. After that, you lose the entire marriage.

If you want to save your relationship, it’s best to try and speak up. If you don’t do anything and you leave everything just like it is, it’s just going down.

Decide what you want. Being emotionally unavailable and still in a relationship don’t work well.

The next one might open up some eyes…

4. No physical connection

There is a no brainer that when it comes to relationships, sex is important, but there isn’t a one size fits all when it comes to intimacy between partners. Some couples are happy with this activity more often, while some rarely do this and are content.

Besides communication, sex can be seen as the glue that holds together the marriage. If one of the partners, or even both of them, doesn’t feel the need to be intimate, it means that something is off. The couple can try and work through this obstacle by talking, trying new things, or even go to a counselor.

Oh, number 5… you really shouldn’t do it!

5. Expressing contempt

When a couple is contemptuous of each other and also disrespectful, it’s a clear sign that their marriage is almost over. There’s nothing worse than treating your partner badly, after saying yes at the altar.

Although sometimes it’s normal to have a conflict or even a fight here and there, because everyone’s different, it’s not a good sign for a married couple to start addressing disrespectful words to each other. You can try and remediate the situation and maybe talk to a specialist – if you can – but if there’s nothing left you can do, just sign the divorce papers.

P.S.: There’s some awkward situation coming!

6. Awkward silence

You know that moment when you had a big fight with one of your closest friends and suddenly, you feel like this caused a tear in your relationship? You might feel like you’re walking on eggshells, because you don’t want to say something that will upset that person again.

A situation like this doesn’t happen just in friendships, but in couple relationships as well. When you and your partner had so many arguments, you might feel like you have no idea what to say anymore, so you just want to keep it quiet. There’s nothing good with that, because instead of making sure you don’t upset each other anymore, these moments of awkward silence don’t do anything other than make you two more distant than before.

The next one is harsh…

7. You don’t care about your partner’s day

Since becoming adults, people have to go to work, in order to sustain their life. If you and your partner have different jobs and you only see each other at the end of the day, when you get home, this can be tough for some relationships, but not impossible. But if you and your partner don’t talk to each other when you get home, don’t ask about how each other’s day was, don’t communicate and behave like you are simply roommates, not two married people, then it’s clear that something is off.

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8. You might feel like you are losing your best friend

“You and me, we used to be together/ Every day together, always/ I really feel that I’m losin’ my best friend”, Gwen Stefani was singing in 1995, as the vocalist of No Doubt.

Although it’s already pretty self-explanatory, this is actually the result of several fights, arguments, lack of communication, bad feelings and all sort of things. If you and your partner had some problems that you didn’t solve, these issues tend to accumulate and to make the relationship break little by little, until partners feel like they are not best friends anymore, but two people who don’t love each other as much as they used to.

Future, future, are we still together?

9. When you are thinking about the future, you don’t see your partner in it

A true indicator of divorce it’s surely the fact that when you are thinking about the future, you are not picturing your partner in it. Maybe you had this in your mind for quite a while, but you didn’t want to believe it. People who are madly in love should imagine each other in their future and also, build the future together, not separate.

If you and your partner don’t seem to picture one another in your lives in the future, then you know that something is not good and you have to work on that.

P.S.: You might not like what I’m about to say next…

TAKEAWAY

We know that everything is easier said than done. It’s not hard to tell somebody to just break up, because it doesn’t worth it. What’s hard is accepting that your relationship is in trouble and you have to let it go.

Even though it can be challenging walking out of a marriage, you have to remember that you don’t have to stay if you are feeling unhappy. You can read these signs again and if you decide that your relationship is not doing well and you can’t do anything about it, it’s better to say goodbye.