There are people who say that attraction fades over time and it is completely normal that from time to time, everyone, including those who are married, need a break and want to spend some time alone. That’s doable and understandable, but what isn’t and is concerning, is when your partner seems to not find you attractive anymore.

As painful and stressful as it gets, it is important to observe if it happens in your relationship as well. If it’s just at the beginning, you can still change its course and spark the relationship again. If you are worried that your partner might not find you attractive anymore, read these signs and check your relationship:

1. Whatever you do, you seem to upset your partner

When someone really likes you, they will try to understand all the annoying little quirks you might have. They tend to concentrate more on everything they like about you, not about the things that are usually irritating. But things change when your partner doesn’t find you attractive anymore. That’s because it’s in people’s nature to observe and comment on a lot of subjects when they find something they disagree with.

If your partner doesn’t like you as much as they used to, they will start to be annoyed by many things you do.

2. They refuse to be intimate with you

It’s not that big of a deal that sometimes you just don’t want to be intimate or maybe you are not in the mood. Although it’s completely normal to feel like that from time to time, what is not normal is your partner refusing you each and every time.

Plus, another sign that they don’t find you attractive anymore is that they don’t initiate any ”bedroom time”. These things can make you feel unwanted, unhappy, and it can also give you the idea that there might be someone else involved.

Besides the emotional aspects of having an active “bedroom life”, there are also health benefits, such as a lower blood pressure, better immune system, better heart health, and sleep. In addition to that, having an intimate connection can be a natural pain relief and also, a way to decrease anxiety and depression.

3. You have the feeling that something is “off”

There are moments when you have a deep feeling in your gut that something is not right. Usually, having a feeling like this can make you tired and upset.

There are different ways people describe how they are feeling “off”. It can manifest as lack of energy, boredom, lack of motivation, or in this case, simply as having the feeling that things are going to change, but not in a way that will make you happy.

The best thing to do in a situation like this is to pay attention to all the signs that maybe something is not right and to talk to your partner about it.

4. They only want to be intimate with you when they are tipsy

We have previously established that a clear indicator your partner doesn’t find you attractive anymore is the fact that they don’t want to be intimate with you. This one is a little bit of a “mixed signal” situation: they want to have some romantic time with you, but only when they are a little tipsy.

There are a lot of scenes in movies when some characters had a little to drink and then felt like they are in a frisky mood. You know how it goes, but be careful, it’s a sign that should worry you, not something to be happy about!

5. Your partner doesn’t compliment you

When you fall in love with someone, you can’t stop thinking about them, talking about them and also complimenting them. You have the impression that they are almost perfect human beings, with only a small amount of flaws.

Over the course of a few months or years, these things start to fade. You won’t compliment your partner every hour of the day, but you WILL continue to do it from time to time.

If you find yourself in a situation where your partner doesn’t compliment you at all, it will make you start wondering what is happening. When you don’t like someone anymore, you stop complimenting them, right? Ask your partner, if you think that this is the case with your relationship!

6. Your partner spends a lot of time outside the home

When you start living under the same roof with your spouse, things tend to get more interesting. You find activities that you both like, you spend a lot of time together and even though you may have small arguments, you still can’t wait to come home to each other.

If you see that your partner spends more time away from home than with you, it may be because they are either stressed out, they have a lot of work to do, they are feeling overwhelmed or they just need to find an excuse to avoid you. If they don’t find you attractive anymore, it means that they don’t enjoy spending time with you, so why would they come home early?

7. They compare you with other people

They say that comparison is nothing other than ”a thief of joy”. The only person you should compare yourself to should be yourself. How you were some time ago vs how are you know. As painful as it gets, there are cases where partners don’t find their spouses attractive anymore, but they still don’t want to let go. They want to find a way to make it work, but not in a mutual way.

For example, if you see that your spouse tells you that you should dye your hair to look more like someone, or you should lose some weight, you should do that because someone’s partner does it and so on, you should know that something is off.

When you are in love with someone, you only see the good things and the beauty that your partner has. If you feel like you are being compared with other people, it’s a clear sign that your partner doesn’t find you attractive anymore!

8. You barely talk 

This might come as a surprise to you, because many times, people don’t correlate talking with attractiveness. But in reality, when someone finds somebody else attractive, they want to spend a lot of time together. And we all know that you can’t stay with someone for several hours and not say a word.

On the other hand, when one of the partners doesn’t find their spouse attractive anymore, it will manifest as a lack of interest. This includes less talking. If you don’t care enough for someone, you don’t want their company and you only think of how you can get away from their lives slowly, but surely.

When we say that you really talk, it’s not about the “good morning” or the “good night” that you say every day. We are referring to serious conversations when you need their full attention.

If you want a quick fix for this, you can ask your spouse about how their day was, while keeping eye contact. Listen carefully and ask questions that will lead to further conversation.

Takeaway 

If you see any of these signs in your relationship, you can try to make it work again. Before you decide anything, you should take into consideration talking to your partner, because it’s always better to be honest!

If you can’t resolve these issues all by yourself, a marriage therapist might be the way to go, if you are really willing to stay in that relationship.

What do you think about these warning signs? Do you agree with them or do you think they are just nonsense? Also, have YOU ever felt any of these signs? If yes, what did you do? Tell us in the comments down below!