For the one that was cheated on…
Learn to forgive yourself, and try not to be too harsh on yourself. After all, it’s not your fault that your partner had adultery. Forgive yourself for feeling angry, hurt, or even hateful. Forgive yourself for now knowing, but also be kind to yourself and understand that healing is a process that takes time.
Try not to feel shame for choosing to stay in the relationship even though they’ve hurt you a lot, for leaving, or for not being able to forgive them. Forgive yourself if you’ve missed something, or for not giving your partner something they needed.
It’s important to understand that even though you didn’t give them what they needed, they could have said something about it, instead of finding someone new to meet their needs. There are no perfect relationships and sometimes a situation as bad as this will make you stronger than ever.
Give yourself time to grieve, cry and eat as much ice cream as you want. Be patient with yourself because you owe it to yourself.
Make sure to also check: If Your Partner Is Using These Two Words, A Breakup Might Be Inevitable.
