7.You might need counseling
You might feel like you don’t need it, being older and wiser when you say “I do” for the second (or third) time in your life. But premarital counseling is not only for young adults having their first rodeo. It could also benefit seasoned couples, helping them solve their internal issues and conflicts before entering another marriage.
Sun Tzu once said that “every battle is won before it is fought”. If you want to win your “second marriage “battle” and increase your chances of having a successful second marriage by 15-30 percent, don’t say no to counseling, especially if your next spouse is the one broaching the subject.
8.You’ll see marriage in a whole new light
As Dr. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz explained it in their book, In Marriage Simple Things Matter, people who remarry treat each other with more respect and have more consideration for the other person’s individuality, opinions and feelings. Compared to their past marriage, a second, or even third marriage, is their opportunity to a new life, one in which respect is extremely important.
9.Tactile communication will not be the same
Tactile communication such as touching and kissing might be different with your second spouse. According to Elizabeth Schmitz, couples in their second marriage will have to make a conscious effort to show their affection and feelings through tactile communication because they are no longer “newlyweds in a first-time marriage with bright eyes and bushy tails.”
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10.You’ll compare your current marriage to your last one
It’s understandable to have some sort of baggage from your previous marriage. After all, just because things didn’t work out, doesn’t mean you can just erase the past few years spent together from your memory. More than that, you mind find yourself taking a trip down memory lane and comparing your ex with your new partner. It’s something normal, says Linda Charnes, a licensed marriage and family therapist in New York. In fact, it can help you realize why you decided to go your separate way with your previous spouse and prevent you from repeating your past mistakes.
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