11.You might feel disappointed
Most people who decide to tie the knot again, have higher expectations about their new relationship. But just because you’re more seasoned now, doesn’t mean your second marriage will necessarily be better than your previous one. “People have unrealistic ideas that a change of scene is going to make an enormous change,” says Charnes. Instead of assuming that your new marriage will be completely different than your previous one, and that you’ll be living an eternally blissful life, set realistic expectations and embrace whatever comes your way with an open heart.
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12.Your new partner might be jealous
Your new partner might feel the need to be your knight in shining armor, ready to save the day and the damsel in distress aka you, especially if you had a rockier previous marriage. But if you and your ex kept things civil and are still friends, your current spouse might get a little bit jealous. To prevent the situation from escalating, make sure you are open towards your new partner and tackle whatever issues might trouble you, with honesty and transparency.
13.Your families might become more intrusive
Entering another marriage means entering another family all over again. Given that your previous marriage didn’t end up well, your family or your new partner’s family might feel the need to be more involved in your new relationship, and make sure this time things do work out for you. Unfortunately, their good intentions might make them meddle in your life way more than they should.
“The family members may get too involved in the relationship and the spouse feels like they’re getting ganged up on,” warns therapist Courtney Geter, LMFP, CSP, based in Decatur, Georgia. If things get awkward and downright frustrating, there are two things you should keep in mind: 1. It’s important to set clear boundaries with both your parents and your in-laws. 2. Being with your partner is more important than any family drama.
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