2.Your mother-in-law is too controlling.
Building a healthy relationship with your in-laws is not always easy, especially when your mother-in-law is too controlling. But what happens when your mother-in-law wants to be in charge, even though it’s your marriage?
A way too controlling mother-in-law will try to tell you what to do and not do, where to live, when it’s the time to have kids and how to raise them, and she will also get upset if you’re not doing as she pleases. If you’re finding yourself in the same situation with your mother-in-law, finding a way to make peace with them will likely be very challenging.
It would be easier if you and your spouse are on the same page and try to find a proper way together on how to handle the situation. However, if your spouse is finding their mother’s behavior acceptable and they’re following her command all the time, you need to solve this problem on your own and do it fast, otherwise, it can compromise your marriage.
According to relationship experts, the most important thing you can do when dealing with a very controlling mother-in-law is to try to find the roots of the problem. Try to find the answers to the following questions:
- Is she acting that way because she’s afraid of losing her power over her son’s/daughter’s life?
- But why is your spouse accepting her behavior? Why they’re allowing her to be such controlling?
- Can a person who’s been like this their whole life change?
After figuring out the answers to these questions, you need to have an open conversation with your spouse about their mother’s behavior and try to make them understand that it’s your marriage, so you two should be the ones in charge. You need to create a united front with your spouse and do as you please, even though you might not have your mother-in-law’s approval. This way, maybe she’ll understand that she’s not in control of your marriage and will back off.
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